“Cut the baby in half! That way each of you can have part of him.”
— King Solomon, 1 Kings 3:16-28

In a child-focussed and interest-driven mediation process, parties can maintain control over life's most important decisions - those that affect their children.  Mediation provides a safe space to brainstorm parenting plans and consider your children's best interests, while setting the stage for future cooperation and a positive co-parenting relationship.   

When King Solomon was called upon to arbitrate a dispute between two women, both claiming to be the natural mother of a baby, he famously said “Give me a sword,” suggesting to split the baby in half.  Solomon’s trickery worked, as the child’s real mother revealed herself by protesting the killing.     What, however, would King Solomon have done in the case of two loving parents instead of one?

Despite the potential for shared custody and fair parenting plans, no agreement will ever be able to effectively “split the baby” and the prospect of being without one’s child for any length of time can be devastating for a parent.   In mediation, parents are reminded and directed to consider the best interests of the children when negotiating their agreement.  The process allows parents discuss and consider different practical proposals that can best meet the children’s needs, in a confidential, non-judgmental and collaborative setting.   Mutual agreement on custody and parenting may not be easy, but it can be possible.

 

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